Stress part 2: The ugly and beautiful truth about weight gain/loss and all over through and through happiness

This blog is strongly dedicated to two of the most strong, most radiantly beautiful inside and out people I have been so fortunate to meet and have in my life this year. They are two of my clients and they have inspired this blog with their courage and vulnerability, I am so proud of them as their trainer and friend and look forward to witnessing their exciting long and healthy futures.

As we walked through the hidden natural beauty and bushland of suburbia barefoot we learnt that the most unbearable life changing pain does not come from what we feel from our external environment but from within, this self destruction and emotional battle we continue to have with ourselves.

The thing I will concentrate this blog on is the battle with weight. What is weight? The dictionary defines it as “the amount or quantity of heaviness or mass; amount a thing weighs”. Does this define who we are? Does it say whether you’re a good person? A successful person? A healthy person” No it is a quantity a number. I am 65kg I am physically active everyday and eat well more frequently than I do not, yes I treat myself on the occasion, I do not starve myself I do not cut food groups out of my diet but I try to eat as natural as possible (meaning I eat what can be grown or harvested). Occasionally I slip, this is part of our modern world there is a lot of options, sadly most of these are processed and treated and are unhealthy. My advice is to stay as natural and as local as possible.  If I calculated my BMI (Body Mass Index) I would be classified as obese. What I am trying to say here is, your weight is a number, a scale will way your clothing, your fat and your muscle. Where does it say what you ate in the day, what activities you did? what kind of person are you?

If weight is just a number that does not take into account a lot of other factors, then why is this number constantly on our minds and constantly stressing us to illness and sadness?

Time to breakthrough and be the judge of your own life and actions.

Look beyond a number, beyond what you see on the outside and look within. Do you love yourself? If so why? If not why? What can you do to make yourself proud?, to make yourself happy?

Is smashing yourself to physical  exhaustion and pain the key? What if we just moved, what if we ran because we wanted to run. Before you say the words, “I can’t run, or I hate to run” think back to when you were a child, how much did you run? Did you feel tired or angry? Or did you feel alive and free? Exercise is not something to stress about it is a gift to be able to move, it is a gift to be able to eat fresh and beautiful food, enjoy exercise/activities enjoy what you eat. Does that processed unnatural food make you feel good on the inside does it leave desired results on the outside? Eat do what makes you feel great and energized inside all the way through and out.

Before we can be physically strong and fit we need to be mentally strong and fit. If you can love yourself for all your quirks, for your successes for your failures, if you can love yourself whole heartedly, your happiness within will shine and your external self will mirror this. 

Take away the mirrors and the scales, they are a distraction for what is real, they are unnatural unreliable and show nothing! Take a moment go for a walk, do something that makes you feel good, have a bath, wash your face; it is these acts of love for ourselves that will provide you with the most fast, most beneficial, long term results of happiness and all over health.

If you cannot think of reason’s why you are absolutely amazing, ask the people that are closest to you, the people that have seen you at your best and worst of times the people that would tell you “if your butt looks big in that dress/pants” I bet they can think of an infinite number of honest real reasons as to why you are great. Start with this and then build on these strengths. Move forward with what already feels natural, these natural things we do  everyday and is then not acknowledged as greatness. We emphasize so much time on negatives of ourselves and our lives that we forget to commend ourselves on what has already been achieved, our successes within, with our relationships, with our jobs etc.

Be thankful each day, love yourself every second of each day. Change your way of thinking, be more positive, be more accepting, and you will see positive changes in all other aspects of your life.

Published by jdv05

I'm an Exercise Scientist leading Personal Training and active tours around Parks Victoria protected spaces of Warburton and the Mornington Peninsula. A lover all things movement, incorporating nature into our sessions and personal workouts. I spent 2014 in Japan working as a tour guide and researching trails and writing active trips for both Australia and Japan. I enjoy competing in fun runs and trail runs, with my favourite being the Two Bays trail run. You can check out some of my workouts and fitness tips on my personal blog, Qualifications include: Bachelor in Sport and Exercise Science, Certificates III and IV in fitness, Level 1 instructor in Mat Pilates, Wild fitness trainer, Level I and II boxing instructor, Surf instructor.

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